Feeling Lost In Life? Here’s The Map You Need

Are you feeling lost in life? Do you feel like your life has been in a rut?

Feeling lost in life can be a really scary place. You may not know where to go or what to do next. If this feels like something you are dealing with, don’t worry! There is hope. In this post, we will discuss some tips on how to find your way when you’re feeling lost in life. So, keep reading for some great advice.

Why is it that our lives rarely change, even when we’re miserable?

Many people have their first experience of feeling lost in life when they are in their mid/late 20s and early 30s. 

• Every morning when you wake up, you feel that this is not what you want your life to be like.
• You feel you don’t know what the F*** you’re doing with your life and how you got here. This can’t be all there is!
• You’ve been questioning all your life decisions! But what can you do? You’re too far to undo everything you’ve accomplished till now. There is no going back.
• You feel lost, confused, stuck, and unfulfilled.
• But you are sure of ONE thing… that something is MISSING.
• You feel that there must be more to life than this… 

If you identify with any or all of the above, don’t worry; you’re not alone!

When you feel lost in life, it can be tough to find your way forward. There are many reasons why people stay stuck and don’t take action on their dreams for the future – but don’t worry by the end of this post, you will have a better understanding of what you need to do to get unstuck.

In this post, we’ll go over some of the obstacles that are holding you back from any potential greatness within you. We will also go through a few strategies to help get rid of those feelings so that they don’t hold you down anymore.

So, if you’re feeling lost in life and confused and don’t know how to get out of this stuckness. If you’re tired of being stuck in a rut… at your job, or in life in general. If you feel like there’s more to life than what you’re currently experiencing. And you’re finally ready to make a change…

If that’s the case, you’re in for a wild ride! Let’s get started!

How did I go from feeling lost in life to starting this blog – Personal story

Let me start by saying that if you’re feeling lost in life, I absolutely understand what you’re feeling. On this one, I had my fair share. For many years, I felt lost and trapped, and it took me a long time to break free. 

To give you a little background, I had been working in the same job for 13 years. My coworkers were great, but my job did not motivate me in the least. The overall environment and managerial style were not conducive to anyone’s wellbeing.

I used to dread going to work every morning. I’m not sure which was worse: Sunday evening (feeling the anticipation of yet another week of work) or Monday morning (actually getting myself out of bed). Going to work made me feel miserable, and I even cried at times. Obviously, this was having an effect on my overall mental wellbeing.

I lost all motivation, couldn’t focus properly, always felt on edge, and I dare to add that my relationships suffered as well. I was pretty unhappy. Until I made the decision to do something about it.

I knew something had to change.

Of course, it was evident at this point that I needed to quit my job. But I couldn’t think of what I could do instead. I didn’t want to just change careers and look for another job in an office. It wasn’t what I was looking for. I craved flexibility. But I had no idea how I was going to pull it off. This was back in 2019.

That is when I started researching the online world and what it had to offer. I enrolled in an online course for Virtual Assistants. This opportunity broadened my horizons. The opportunities available in the online industry are nearly endless.

Then at the start of 2021, I decided that I was going to get my sh*t together (one of the few resolutions I actually followed through). At the same time, I was also dealing with some personal issues for which I required some assistance. So, I signed up for a personal growth program. And I began to rediscover myself and fall in love with myself all over again. That instilled in me the confidence to quit my job and create this online blog. 

They say what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!

I can’t say my work is finished because I’m still a work in progress. What matters is that I started and took action. 

And for sure, it is not a guarantee that this was the best decision I could have made. But, in any case, the most important thing is that it got me started, and it’s definitely moving me in the right direction. 

What I can say is that I am the happiest I have been in a long time, and it has completely changed my life.

My only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner. 

Perhaps the two primary reasons why it took me so long to get out of it were:

• I felt alone – not because I didn’t have any support, but because until I started expressing myself to others (especially with my mentor and counselor), I thought I was the only one who felt this way. I was convinced that something was wrong with me. Of course, this is far from the truth because feeling lost in life is a completely normal feeling to have.
• I lacked the necessary tools to understand what was happening and how I could actually get out of it. 

That’s why I’m writing this article: to provide you with the tools you need to get from feeling lost in life to finding your way.

2020 wake up call

In some ways, I feel 2020 served as a wake-up call not only for me but for many people. Despite all of the negative effects the pandemic had on many aspects of our lives, if we had to pick one positive aspect of the pandemic, it would be that many of us had time to reflect deeply on our lives. We had time to re-evaluate our life choices and become aware of what needs to be changed to feel fulfilled.

Even though in reality my realization began in 2019 (when I decided that I wanted to work online), the real transformation started to happen in 2020. And when the pandemic struck, and we were forced to work from home, it continued to reinforce and confirm my decision. That I wanted to work for myself and from home. And all of the benefits that come with it, such as flexibility and not being location dependent. For sure, it has its drawbacks too, but for me, they outweigh the benefits.

And, like me, I know that many people had moments of clarity and changed their lives for the better. But, if you’re still feeling lost in life and stuck, don’t give up just yet. 

By the end of this article, you will have some helpful actions to follow that will help you stop feeling lost and find your way. 

So let’s get started.

>>Read more: Here are 12 things to remember when you’re feeling lost in life

Why are you feeling lost in life?

First, you should recognize that it is perfectly normal to feel disappointed and unsatisfied with your life from time to time. The issue arises when you feel this way on a consistent and long-term basis. In that case, you should evaluate what is causing you to feel this way.

There are numerous reasons why you may be feeling lost in your life:

Let’s begin with the most common one – Your job. 

Going to work should feel like an easy, pleasurable, and hugely positive part of your life if you enjoy what you do. However, on the other hand, if you don’t like your job, this might negatively impact your mental and physical health. 

If you’re going through anything similar to what I went through. Apart from feeling lost, you are most likely suffering from burnout too. Perhaps someone at work is toxic to you, and you feel as if you don’t belong there.

Another reason could be that you’re not happy in your current relationship. Many people who have been with a partner for a long time may find it difficult to leave, even if it is detrimental to their wellbeing. Others may not realize they are in an unhealthy relationship or that their partner is making them unhappy.

Your view of yourself could be another reason that is making you unhappy. People who compare themselves to others and believe they should be achieving things by a certain point in their life may become dissatisfied. 

Maybe you’ve noticed seeing that all of your friends are engaged, married, or having children. And you’re still single, which makes you feel lost and stuck. Because you know deep down that’s not the life you want (at least for now). But you also don’t feel you can be or do what you really want because it’s not what everyone else is doing. As a result, you feel alienated.

So, instead of doing what you want, you do nothing and remain feeling lost in your life and stuck in your current phase. But you shouldn’t compare yourself to others. Not everyone has the same dreams. 

You do you!

Another factor could be your lack of self-belief. You don’t believe you have it in you to achieve your dreams. 

• You’re not enough! 
• How can you possibly make it happen?
• You don’t deserve it. 

I’ve had these exact feelings for a long time, and I still do, but I fight with myself each day to let go of these limiting beliefs and learn to believe in myself a little bit more each day.

Perhaps you’ve experienced an injustice and can’t move on. You know life isn’t fair because you’ve been told and witnessed it your entire life. Trying to deal with something that is not only unfair but also completely unjust may wreak havoc on your happiness if you let it. 

Or maybe you went through some setbacks and challenges. Life is truly a rollercoaster, with many ups and downs punctuated by brief times of stability. Birth occurs, as does death, as does everything in between. The truth is that life is full of challenges, and you will never be completely immune to them. However, if you are prepared, you can take these actions to assist yourself in dealing with severe life obstacles.

>>Read more: 20 powerful and inspirational quotes about life and struggles

Why can’t you get out of this state of feeling lost in your life?

Now that we’ve figured out what’s making you feel lost in life, we need to figure out why you can’t seem to get out of it.

Let’s use me as an example. I knew why I was feeling lost in my life, what was wrong and what I needed to change for a long time i.e. quitting my job, dealing with family issues, and working on my personal development. Despite this, I didn’t do anything about it until years later.

Why is that? 

Why is it that our lives rarely change, even when we are unhappy?

Within our minds, there are forces at work that conspire to keep us stuck. They’re also incredibly effective at it. They’re so good, in fact, that we don’t even realize it’s happening.

If you’ve been unhappy for a very long time, it might be time to look into why you’re continuing to remain stuck even though you know you need to change some things in your life. 

Some of the reasons you might still be feeling lost and stuck in your life are as follows:

1. You don’t have the requisite knowledge to make a change, just yet

As I said, one of the reasons why I didn’t take action before is the lack of knowledge and tools. Like me, you might be seeing that something in your life needs to be changed, but you may be unsure how to go about it. Not all information is readily available.

Before you can make a change, you’ll probably need to perform some research. Hopefully, this article will help you put things into perspective and find how to move on in your life. 

2. You can’t deal with being uncomfortable

Anxiety, nervousness, and fear are great for preventing you from jumping off a 10-story building. But when it comes to keeping you lost and stuck, they’re not helpful at all.

Any change causes some level of difficulty, but what happens is that your emotions mislead you. When a change is about to happen, your emotions lead you to believe that you are in danger. But that’s not true; you’re not in any real danger.

Use logic to help you get through it. “I’m not going to die if I change my career. In fact, there are numerous advantages.”

Override your primal instincts by using the rational part of your brain.

There are numerous strategies available to reduce your levels of discomfort to more reasonable levels. Meditation, prayer, and counseling are just a few examples of things that can help.

Begin small and gradually increase your efforts. Your ability to deal with larger and scarier situations will improve with practice.

3. You’re comfortable 

To expand on the previous point. You may be comfortable with the way things are.

“Comfortable?” you might say. “I feel miserable. How can you say I’m comfortable with the way my life is going?”

I understand that this may come as a surprise to some of you. But be honest with yourself…

Why is it so difficult to push yourself to try new things?

Because don’t we all enjoy some level of comfort in our lives?

Comfort may appear:

• when you are wasting your time scrolling around social media rather than actively trying to achieve your goals
• settling for mediocre relationships or a job that is not satisfying at all
• prioritizing short-term gratification over long-term rewards
• Or continuing old behaviors rather than adopting new ones because stepping up your game, upgrading your standards, and embracing new beliefs may be really frightening.

The truth is that your brain prefers to remain in your “stuck” state. 

It’s more familiar – it knows what’s going to happen because it’s used to it. You might even feel safer. This is why everyone keeps telling you to get out of your comfort zone (more on that here).

4. You’re experiencing Fear of failure

Fear of failure is like being stuck in quicksand. You’re definitely unhappy with your current circumstances, but you’re too afraid of the alternatives to make a significant change in your life. 

As we discussed in the previous point, you’re more comfortable with how things are than with the uncertainty of what might happen or what might go wrong.

We’re brilliant at procrastinating and making up a million reasons why we can’t move forward, but the truth is that procrastination is a representation of our fears.

Also, fear of failure could be a symptom of several other issues. It could be apprehension about being judged or criticized by our loved ones or even strangers. Or it could simply be a worry of wasting time on something you don’t believe will work out in the end.

What is certain is that fear will definitely keep you from ever truly understanding your full potential.

Use these tips to help you conquer your fear of failure. Your life will be enriched in many positive ways.

5. Instinct gratification

While the modern world is all about instant gratification like same-day delivery, instant movie streaming, etc., the rest of the world does not always move at the same pace. 

Expecting everything in life to be easy or happen quickly is a recipe for failure.

Patience is essential when it comes to making changes in one’s life. 

It takes time to put in the effort. If you expect immediate results, you’ll be disappointed, and you’ll be more likely to give up than to persevere with hard work.

6. You give up too quickly

Another reason you can’t seem to get out of this state of feeling lost in life is that when you try something new, you give up too quickly. However, you must understand that change takes time.

At least 80% of the final change will not be visible until at least 80% of the work has been completed. Understand, however, that your early efforts bore fruit and recognition of what is going on behind the scenes.

To make a significant difference in your life, you must be persistent.

Learn to be a finisher.

7. You’re prioritizing others – People Pleasing

People-pleasing is highly widespread, particularly among women. This mentality is prevalent in both our personal and professional lives. Many people, in fact, are overwhelmed by their need to please others in all aspects of their lives.

You might feel compelled to please your family, friends, even strangers on the street or on social media. Though seeking to please others is not necessarily wrong, but when done excessively, people-pleasing has several negative consequences for the people-pleaser.

People-pleasing may create unreasonable expectations, neglect self-care, lower self-esteem, and raise stress and worry. This overpowering desire to please others is hazardous to your health and the health of others around you. 

It would also be helpful to examine where this need is coming from. For example, I realized that I used people-pleasing to boost my self-worth. It makes me feel needed and loved.

It’s essential to do this type of inner work to become more self-aware and understand what you need to work on.

8. You Have No Idea What To Do 

What to do when you have no idea what to do?

As I mentioned earlier, I have no guarantee that this was the best decision for me. But what’s certain is that it got me started.

If you’re anything like me, the more options you have, the more confused you’ll become. And instead of making a decision, you’ll simply not make one at all. You become overwhelmed by all of the findings and become even more confused than when you began, causing you to become even more lost and stuck. 

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But you may not realize that by not making a decision, you are still making a decision – to stay precisely where you are. 

Which, I guess if you’re reading this article, is exactly what you don’t want. So, conduct your research, weigh all of your options, and then select one. 

Even if you’re still undecided, make a decision and stick with it until you’re sure it was the wrong one.

If you believe that another option would be a better fit for you. You have the option of changing your path once more. The important thing is that you’re always progressing. Remember that making a bad decision is better than making no decision at all.

And perhaps acting on the ‘wrong decision’ will provide you with a new perspective on how to proceed. And instead of getting bogged down in indecision, you’ll be moving forward.

9. You’re living in the past

Are you living in the past?

Everyone goes through difficult times in their lives. Perhaps you experienced a less-than-ideal childhood or faced difficult circumstances as an adult. If letting go of the past has been difficult for you, living in the now will bring more joy and fulfillment into your life and prepare you for a greater future.

You have the ability to go forward and begin living in the present, regardless of your prior experiences. This will undoubtedly take some time and effort, but you can practice it whenever you want.

Whatever is keeping you stuck, now is the time to make peace with it. The episode has already occurred.

Accept your past and recognize that your past doesn’t define you. 

How To Go From feeling lost in life to finding your way

Depending on why you’re feeling lost in life, you’ll need to take action accordingly. It may require you to leave your comfort zone, and for some time, it may feel uncomfortable, but in the end, you’ll likely find that it was all worth it!

The below are some of the strategies that you may use to go from feeling lost in life to finding your way: 

#1 Trust your gut/intuition

Some people are so confident about what they want that they just go for it. Unfortunately, that is not the case for everyone. I know for a fact that I am not one of those people.

However, one of the things my mentor used to say was to trust your gut/intuition.

Your intuition is the source of your inspiration, and it represents your actual self’s honest feelings. You can obtain insight into what makes you happy and unhappy by listening to your inner voice. You can also gain the ability to change your life and make it more vibrant and satisfying. Just make sure you’re not listening to your ego. 

Unfortunately, most of us are too busy managing all of the tasks and demands of our everyday lives to pay attention to our intuition.

The good news is that you can filter out distractions so you can hear your intuition, no matter how busy or crazy your life is. You can utilize that voice to guide you as you reconnect with your true self.

Use these strategies to filter out the noise of daily life and harness the power of your inner voice.

#2 Face your fears

Stop letting your fears hold you back.

Your fear of change may have been one of the main reasons you became lost and stuck in the first place. Maybe you’re stuck in your current job and need to go back to college or take an online course to get the job you want. You must overcome your fear and simply apply for that course.

Perhaps you want to travel the world but are afraid of losing contact with your family and friends. But what if it makes you a better person and that distance allows you to appreciate them more, resulting in a stronger relationship with them?

Recognize the fears that are holding you back and go ahead and do it anyway.

You’ll be glad you did when you finally get your dream job or reach your goals.

#3 Change your Perspective 

What we experience is influenced by our mental filters and how we perceive the outside environment.

A new perspective on your situation will help you see things differently.

I can guarantee that changing your perspective on life will be enlightening.

A shift in your perspective will help you not only stick to your goals but also attain them more effectively.

#4 Adopt a Positive Attitude 

One of the most effective methods to break out of a rut is to change your attitude towards your life. When your life takes an unexpected turn, dealing with the consequences can be difficult. Perhaps you’re dealing with some challenges or injustices. 

But it’s important to understand that regardless of what is going on around you, how you respond to a situation is ALWAYS your decision. How you deal with life’s situations ultimately determines the quality of your life. 

#5 Challenge yourself – do something new

Make your life a little more exciting. Take up a new and exciting activity. It could be taking dancing lessons, starting yoga sessions, seeing a play, going out with your girlfriends, learning a new skill, or anything else. 

What matters is that it excites you.

Have the courage to step out of your comfort zone, even if only for a short period each week. 

Your life and you will develop in new and exciting ways.

#6 Be more open-minded

When you’re open-minded, the world becomes a lot more exciting and expansive. However, keeping an open mind might be difficult.

We all have beliefs, values, interests, and biases that prevent us from seeing the truth and experiencing new things. Our perception of the world is skewed in ways we aren’t even aware of. 

Being open-minded is a huge challenge but not impossible. You can train yourself to be more open-minded by:

• Reading books on subjects that are entirely contradictory to your own.
• Look for Role Models – Find someone who has been through comparable. circumstances to yours and learn how they overcame challenges.
• Listen to podcasts and expand your knowledge on various topics.
• Getting to know new people who have a different view than yours.
• Travel – Explore new places and new cultures.

#7 Enforce Self-discipline and Healthy boundaries

As previously stated, one of the elements that may be contributing to your stuckness is that you are a people-pleaser. You are always prioritizing the needs of others over your own. As a result, this will leave you with no time to do the things you want to do for yourself. 

People-pleasing can only be defeated by having a strong sense of self-discipline, self-respect, and awareness of your inner voice. These items may appear simple on paper, but they are challenging to put into practice, particularly for the people-pleaser.

Having the discipline, respect, and wisdom to say no to people may be exceedingly unpleasant and awkward, even for those who aren’t naturally people-pleasers. As a result, it’s critical to establish clear standards for yourself and others so that you can handle these uncomfortable situations. 

You can do so by establishing healthy boundaries. Boundaries are invisible barriers that separate your feelings, needs, and wants from other people’s feelings, needs, and wants. Setting boundaries gives you control over your life, boosts your self-esteem, and allows you to form healthier relationships with those around you.

Healthy boundaries are the most effective approach to set rules for yourself and others.

#8 Find something you love doing

So you have this great job, good income, and fantastic coworkers, and so, on paper, you appear to have it all. But in reality, you’re burned out, depleted, and unfulfilled, and you dread going to work every morning.

If you’re continuously exhausted, unable to concentrate, and on the verge of losing your mind, it’s a strong indication that you need to find something else to do. 

It strongly suggests that you don’t like what you are doing. 

And, no, it’s not normal to feel that way, or at least it shouldn’t be the norm. 

This isn’t how life should be! 

You shouldn’t have to constantly push yourself to be okay or feel okay about your career. And, no, you should not feel you have to say things like, “I should be grateful that I have a job at all” or “Who am I to ask anything more?”

Everyone deserves to do what they love. So stop wasting your time and just find something else. 

>>Read more: The five burnout stages – Here Is What You Need To Know

#9 Meet new people

Make an effort to meet new people. We tend to associate with folks who share our interests. However, there are lots of other people in the world who can provide you with something new. Ideally, it would be through physical interaction like attending a book club, playing tennis, a cooking class, etc. 

#10 Exercise your body and mind

If you’re all day at home or in the office and worst sedentary for a prolonged period, choose a form of exercise that you can handle easily. Start small, and work your way up to moderate and high-intensity workouts. 

If possible, get outside more. Studies show that just being outside will make you feel happier, improve your self-esteem, increase your concentration and heal faster. The reason is that by being in nature, we are exposed to negative irons, which are best known for stabilizing our moods and increasing our serotonin. Exercising around the ocean may be optimal, but any natural environment is of benefit.

Take up a hobby or pastime that will really get your brain working. How about chess? Meditation? Anything that gets the mind going!

Whatever you choose, allow yourself to become consumed by the activity, so you’ll have a new purpose in life besides thinking of your stuckness.

#11 Just start – you don’t have to feel ready.

Do you have any idea why you’re still waiting? Fear is the most honest response. There’s still hope if you never get started because you can’t know for sure if your plans will fail. You can’t fail if you never begin.

However, the opposite is also true. There is no real hope for anything better if you never start. You will always fail if you never start.

How long have you been putting off starting to work toward your goal or dream? The majority of people are locked in a never-ending cycle of waiting. 

• I will quit my job when I’m more financially stable.
• I’ll start my business when I’m more knowledgeable.
• I will start dating when the right person comes along.
• I will begin to work out when I have more time.

You’re waiting for the ‘right time.’ This is a huge mistake. Everyone is waiting for the right moment to pull the trigger and get things started. 

However, this is the best possible time to do so. And if you’re putting it off till you’re ready, I’m sorry to break it to you, but you’ll never feel ready. 

So, don’t waste any more time and just start.

Take a deep breath and begin right now. You’ll never be completely ready or comfortable, so get started right now. NOW is the time to make a difference in your life.

You will always fail if you never start!

#12 Don’t give up 

You either lack willpower or use it ineffectively.

Willpower is limited, but it is excellent for developing new habits and behavioral patterns.

Continuing to work on a task after the desire to give up arises can help to develop willpower. Continue for 5 minutes more. Increase the amount of time you spend each week until you can overcome the desire to give up.

Develop small habits that can grow into valuable routines by using your willpower.

Learn to be a finisher. 

Begin by completing all of the minor tasks in your life. If you decide to do a 45-minute workout, make sure you finish it. Avoid letting yourself off the hook until you have completed an activity completely.

Action plan to stop feeling lost in life

Now that we’ve gone over some options for getting you out of your rut. Nothing can stop you from achieving your goals. If you stay organized and follow a simple plan of action step by step.

Here is your Action Plan to follow to get you on your way to getting unstuck and finding your way:

Change Your Mindset

The first thing you need to do is to change your thinking. All of your behaviors begin as thoughts. So, when you think positive and fearless thoughts, you will be more driven to act! Believe and trust yourself. Know that you have it in you to figure it out. 

Set Up Accountability

When you hold yourself accountable and keep a close eye on your goals, you’ll be able to recognize when you’re stuck in a rut. The first step is to determine why you’re stuck in the first place.

Set A Time Goal

You’re stuck and want to get unstuck, but you’ve probably been putting off working toward your goal. You’ve already decided to hold yourself accountable, and now it’s time to set a time limit for yourself – so go ahead and do it!

Feel your fears and do it anyway

As previously stated, our fears prevent us from reaching our full potential. You know you are unsatisfied with your current situation, but you are too afraid of the alternatives to make a significant change in your life. 

However, to grow and achieve your goals, you must confront your fears. So make a list of the fears which are holding you back and figure out how to overcome them.

Look For Inspiration and Role Models 

Find someone who has been through a similar situation to yours and learn how they overcame obstacles. If at all possible, ask this person questions.

Listen to podcasts and read books. Expand your knowledge. 

Journal and/or Meditate

Remember to take some time for yourself to collect your thoughts. You may discover some insight into how to solve your challenges. Make sure you’re completely alone with your thoughts without any distractions. 

Get a mentor, counselor, or therapist

Unfortunately, there is still some taboo surrounding this subject, but please know that it is okay to seek support if necessary. Personally, I am still in therapy. As previously stated, I am still a work in progress. And I believe everyone else is as well. Everyone must continue to do the necessary inner work based on their life circumstances.

People underestimate the power of discussing their problems with someone, especially someone who is either a professional in the field or has gone through a similar experience. As an outsider with knowledge and experience, they may see your problem/s from a different perspective and better guide you.

Find someone with whom you really resonate and connect, and just get started. You will not be sorry.

Make the Change

Once you’ve decided on an action plan, you’ll want to divide your changes into small steps. Track your progress and fine-tune your system to ensure that your changes are having an effect.

For example, if you’re feeling stuck in a relationship, you’ll first assess where you believe the problem is. Perhaps you’re not communicating effectively. If this is the case, you can set a three-month deadline to overcome this challenge.

You can then break the problem down into smaller steps by reading a communication book, talking about it with your partner, or trying counseling sessions. As you go through these actions, you’re constantly keeping a close eye on how it affects your relationship. 

Finally, you’ve made a firm decision about the future of your relationship, and you’re no longer feeling stuck. It would be impossible to improve if you had not taken action!

Repeat and re-evaluate the Process

When you’ve applied this system to one aspect of your life, you can use the same strategies whenever you’re stuck. There are always actions you can take to break down barriers, no matter how big or small!

Final thoughts 

I know that it can be challenging to make any kind of change especially when you’re feeling so lost. Understanding your resistance to change might help you make more significant adjustments in your life. 

Have a goal in mind and build routines that will help you achieve it. Learn to manage and cope with negative emotions.

You already have what you need within yourself to make your life a great one. You just need to take a chance and go for it!

The most important thing to do is to trust yourself.

Start cultivating a self-trusting relationship with yourself. My first mentor and my counselor both tell me repeatedly to trust myself. 

Trust yourself that you have it in you and that no matter what happens, you’ll figure it out. In either case, if it works out, you’ll figure it out, and if it doesn’t, you’ll figure it out as well.

Trust that no matter what, you’ll find your way.

I’m not implying that this will happen on the spur of the moment. Remember when we said that change takes time and that you can’t keep quitting?

So, this isn’t to say that after reading this article, you’ll suddenly quit your job or break up with your toxic partner. It will take some time for you to begin to trust yourself.

>>Read more: Cutting off Toxic people – Know when to walk away

The example my mentor used to give is that it’s like when you first start dating someone. First, you trust them with small things like showing up and responding to your texts. However, as the relationship develops and grows stronger, you will most likely trust that person with your life.

It’s the same with you. Your self-trust relationship must be built gradually but steadily.

Find ways to trust yourself in small things. Such as doing what you say you’ll do, like doing your workout as you promised yourself. So then, when the time comes to make a big decision, you trust yourself enough to take that giant leap.

Otherwise, you’ll always find something to prevent you from doing it.

Trust yourself that whatever happens, you’ve got your back, and you’ll figure it out either way.

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